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abaya · 11-29-2006, 06:11 PM

Oh, I totally missed this thread... sorry, folks! Something about getting married and having two weddings in the middle of all that, got me distracted.

So my reunion was pretty normal, actually. Nothing weird, nothing depressing, nothing shocking. A lot of people whom I would have loved to see didn't show up... but a few people did, and it was GREAT to see them again. As for the rest of the crowd... well, I didn't talk much with the people I never talked to in the first place, so I didn't really notice how much they had changed (jocks, snobby girls, etc). I stuck to familiar faces and avoided uncomfortable ones. It helped that I had a "core" group to go back to... two of my best friends from high school are still my best friends (they had just been two of my bridesmaids two weeks before the reunion!), and so the three of us congregated together when we got tired of working the crowd. My husband was also there, which was a source of comfort and perspective.

I suppose the oddest thing was that when everyone asked what I was doing, and I said, "Getting my PhD," everyone said, "Oh of course, I wouldn't expect anything else, blah blah blah... always the smartypants, weren't you?" I was thinking, hey man, these people haven't seen what I've been through in 10 years. I was thinking, they knew me when I was a 4.0 student and all that shit... they didn't see me become a total slacker in college, getting C's and not caring, not knowing what to do with my life, etc etc. I haven't been very ambitious the whole time... and even the last few years that I've been in grad school, I've never felt particularly impassioned or genius. I'm just doing my work, and they pay me to do it, and that's called grad school for now. So I didn't like how everyone just slotted me into the old image of "nerd," I guess, even though it's not a negative thing. Not that anyone wants to hear long, complicated stories at a reunion, anyway.

So basically, it was fine, mildly entertaining, and I'm glad I went because of the few people I did get back in touch with again. But in the end, I was quit happy to leave and spend time with my two best friends and our significant others, and leave it at that.

11-29-2006, 06:11 PM	#61 (permalink)
abaya Location: Iceland	Oh, I totally missed this thread... sorry, folks! Something about getting married and having two weddings in the middle of all that, got me distracted. So my reunion was pretty normal, actually. Nothing weird, nothing depressing, nothing shocking. A lot of people whom I would have loved to see didn't show up... but a few people did, and it was GREAT to see them again. As for the rest of the crowd... well, I didn't talk much with the people I never talked to in the first place, so I didn't really notice how much they had changed (jocks, snobby girls, etc). I stuck to familiar faces and avoided uncomfortable ones. It helped that I had a "core" group to go back to... two of my best friends from high school are still my best friends (they had just been two of my bridesmaids two weeks before the reunion!), and so the three of us congregated together when we got tired of working the crowd. My husband was also there, which was a source of comfort and perspective. I suppose the oddest thing was that when everyone asked what I was doing, and I said, "Getting my PhD," everyone said, "Oh of course, I wouldn't expect anything else, blah blah blah... always the smartypants, weren't you?" I was thinking, hey man, these people haven't seen what I've been through in 10 years. I was thinking, they knew me when I was a 4.0 student and all that shit... they didn't see me become a total slacker in college, getting C's and not caring, not knowing what to do with my life, etc etc. I haven't been very ambitious the whole time... and even the last few years that I've been in grad school, I've never felt particularly impassioned or genius. I'm just doing my work, and they pay me to do it, and that's called grad school for now. So I didn't like how everyone just slotted me into the old image of "nerd," I guess, even though it's not a negative thing. Not that anyone wants to hear long, complicated stories at a reunion, anyway. So basically, it was fine, mildly entertaining, and I'm glad I went because of the few people I did get back in touch with again. But in the end, I was quit happy to leave and spend time with my two best friends and our significant others, and leave it at that. __________________ And think not you can direct the course of Love; for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course. --Khalil Gibran