Originally Posted by abaya

Although, in response to your question, I guess you're talking about something you haven't done yet, and about telling someone you haven't even met yet? Am I following? And the only thing that is preventing you from doing it is your fear of telling your husband about it many years down the road? (What if you met the man of your dreams next year, btw? Would you be "over" it by then?)

I guess what I am asking is, are you really scared about "telling" someone later, or are you scared of actually doing this deed? I'm not sure if I'm clear on your actual hold-up. If you think it's going to affect your emotional well-being negatively, well hell, that should be your #1 reason for not doing it, right there. No need to consider a future spouse's reaction if you yourself don't feel 100% thrilled (which is how you should feel, if this is REALLY something you WANT to do). Just my opinion.