My question is both specific and general...
If you had a secret in your life and you found yourself seriously involved with someone (even to the point of marriage) would you tell them?
Lets say this secret involved something that happened in another life (something you've moved on from and put behind you completely). Would you feel compelled to be entirely open and honest with your SO - so that they truly know
everything about you, or would you just keep that part of your life hidden and seperate?
What if you knew for sure that they would not approve of said secret or past actions...?
I would love to hear responses to the above question because it is in a general form but I have also phrased it in a specific sense below...
The situation is this:
My roommate and I have been given an opportunity to make a little extra cash (which would be SERIOUSLY welcomed right now) and I am having some qualms about it, in that I worry about the lasting effects on my emotional well-being and the effects on future relationships.
If I do said venture (it is sexually orientated), will I be able to keep it a secret from the man I eventually marry, or even the next guy I get really serious with?
In my mind, it will have been a huge thing from my past (not something I'll easily forget) and something I would feel compelled to share. In past relationships, my SO's have known everything about me - I have held nothing back. Would it be fair to my future SO's to keep this from them. Or am I only opening myself up to heartache, knowing that if I were to tell, I run the very real risk of losing this person (or in the very least, seriously affecting how they view me) ?
All is asked hypothetically as I have neither taken this course of action, nor do I have a SO at the moment to consider.
So my question remains - would you tell?
