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A recent documentary on tv followed the lives of 3 people living together. The relationship started with two men but wanting a woman to complete their household(one of the men thought he was strictly homosexual but found the idea intriguing). They actively sought one out and finally one agreed to the arrangement. It was a very successful arrangement for them and the film tried to break it down a bit as to the dynamics of how something like that would work.
When she got pregnant, there truly was no idea nor any concern over which one was the father-they felt equally 'fatherly' about it. All three were successful in their careers and not at all secretive to family or friends.
It seems that some might want to use 'polyamorous' as a synonym for swinging, but they're different. There's a 'casualness' associated with the swinging lifestyle. Perhaps using the word 'polyamorous' helps to eradicate that notion in that instance.
I really think it's harder to be monogamous than poly. It takes a great deal of compromising, restraint and resolve to insist only one other can be the be-all-end-all. On the other hand, the type of arrangement as in the documentary takes even more compromising, along with commitment and understanding to making it work without the petty jealousies humans seem to have.
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