Moskie

I definitely agree. Internalizing things leads to wrong assumptions as to what's going on in the other person's head. Human nature (or my nature, at least) can assume the worst, sometimes, when reality is quite different. Actually, we've gone through stints (like right now...) where she won't talk to me for days and days after we have a fight. This has been the most difficult part to deal with, as I'm all but forced to listen to my own thoughts and nothing else. I think it's just another signal she's not interested in this being serious...

I'm getting the message about communication (ironic?), I'll do my best to work on it...

I hope it's not the consensus that it was me that fucked this whole thing up, though, is it? She's done some things that have hurt me, and I've brought them up. Maybe I haven't done so in the most immediate manner, but I am at the very least civil about it. Initially anyway.. things have gotten nasty when she doesn't own up to hurting me, or assure me that she actually cares about me. She mainly gets defensive and sarcastic ("oh yea it's all my fault, isn't it?" she says). It gets painful.

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