I'll give an example:
If one of us were to spend the night at the other's place, the vast majority of the time it would be me spending the night at her place. But a night came along where we ended up at my place instead. We were going to bed, getting a bit flirty, and then somewhere along the line she mentions she wants to go back to her place. It's late and we're partially undressed at this point, fully committed to spending the night at my place, as far as I was concerned. Her saying that caught me off guard, but I knew right away that it hurt. But I couldn't instantly come to terms with
why it hurt. What did it mean to me for her spend the night at my place? What did it mean that she didn't feel comfortable being there? Did it even matter? And (girls being girls
) I knew if I phrased what I was feeling wrongly, I could be in a mess of trouble that I'm not looking to be in.
Believe me, I *wish* I could go through that mental process in an instant. But I'm not able to...
I think I also have to point out that this girl lives for her mani/pedis, and has more shoes than I do socks.
