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Originally Posted by Toaster126
Perhaps the reason it seems like the problems start when the male is expressing emotion is because they sometimes won't until the problem is serious or long lasting. As in, the problem already existed, and the male wasn't emoting about it.
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Big fat whopping BINGO on that one. I've noticed I have this problem.
What will happen, is that when something is said or done that upsets me, I instantly am able to
feel that I'm upset, but I can't instantly find the words to express why. I have to sit and think about it for a second (or a day) and figure what was done that actually upset me. By that time, the moment has passed, and it doesn't feel appropriate to bring it up. Until, of course, things pile up and overflow, and I blurt out a half dozen things all at once. Which doesn't turn out to be a very pretty situation at all....
I find myself reluctant to buy into these gender-specific ideas, like women are selfish and whatnot. But I have a feeling I'll need to take them to heart in order to make any sense of this.
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Originally Posted by Toaster126
Oh, and Moskie, don't get into long term relationships with takers when you are a giver. That seems a little vague, so I'll explain: there are two and only two kinds of people in this world - givers, and takers.
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this hits home too...
thanks everyone, you're being a big help.