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c) other
It's a question that applies equally to both homosexuals and heterosexuals.
My answer would be that these are related and often linked, but are separate things. Love can find expression through a a variety of means, one of these being sex. A sexually intimate relationship can build into a loving one.
There are people who have sex without ever loving their partners. This happens a lot, else there wouldn't prostitutes.
There are people who love their companions without desiring sex with them. Being asexual doesn't render one incapable of love.
Being hetero/homosexual isn't solely about either love or sex, but the sexual attraction element is the more important defining characteristic of the two. I know of several lesbians who identify that way not because they feel no sexual attraction whatsoever to men, but because in having had relationships with both men and women they find themselves unable to connect emotionally to men the way they do with women. I know of straight women who feel the same way, that they can find themselves attracted to other women, but can't conceive of having a romantic relationship with another woman. In these cases, it's more a matter of capacity to love than degree of physical attraction.
For most men, their physical attraction to men or women is hardwired at birth, but I have little doubt that love can come from a close physical attraction or that physical intimacy can grow from a close emotional attraction.
Orientation is generally defined by ones primary physical attraction, which usually coincides with one's primary emotional attraction/romantic connection. When it doesn't, this can make for some disastrous relationships.
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