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What you guys said rings very true for me.
pigglet, I did lend her my jacket; she was dressed up as a mermaid and wasn't wearing much and seemed to appreciate the gesture. Also, I don't really have a problem with isolating them, but I do sound nervous as hell contacting them afterward due to a lack of any liquid courage that may have been present the night-of. That's one reason I prefer messaging, but it really is an escape route.
The only time I 'moved' on a girl (who looked remarkably like Molly Ringwald, actually, but blonde) was this summer when I was sharing a cab home with her and was so trashed I didn't much care about anything. So I thought, 'what the hell' and started whispering some naughty things to her while playing with her earring. Well, she came over a few days later and we went for a long walk, ended up eating and having a few drinks together and making out for about an hour at my place. It was the only time I've been that direct about what I wanted, and it looks like it was well received. However, I then became nervous on the phone later and it really wierded her out. Also, I'm not the kind of guy to keep calling a girl. I don't know if this makes me a quitter, self-respecting, or non-pushy; thoughts on this?
@loquitur
I can totally see what you mean, and I'm VERY much forcing myself to do this. If I weren't doing this, I'd be home on Friday night watching the History channel or playing on the computer. I'm most comfortable doing these things, but they don't make me happy. I made a decision this summer that I would step out of my comfort zone and get used to interacting with girls. See post above about being a Computer Science major. I did what every geek does and went online to read stuff. While I've become quite good at keeping girls laughing and having a good time with me, no amount of reading online can give me the testicular fortitude to make my move.
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