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I think you've got some decent essentials in that letter, but I think you'd do yourself a service by expanding it. When I read that, it sounds like you're complaining mostly about the sex. Which you are, but you're not focussing on "why" enough. I think you'll do better, and get your point across with less chance of being offensive, if you focus a little more on where you see your relationship with your girl, how you view sex and why you feel that her attitudes towards sex are affecting you. You mention the fact that her description of your twig and berries as nasty and gross is disturbing to you, and I can understand that. I'd feel the same way. But I'd stress (not wanting to put words in your mouth here) that sex is also an important mode of communication, at a very raw and physical level - and that her attitudes are inherently shutting down that mode of communication. I would stress that while the physical act of sex, excluded to the sole act of penetrative penis-> vagina sex, isn't satisfying to you, that equally dissatisfying is what you perceive to be a reluctance to be completely open with each other.
I would also nix the "people do things for their lovers that they don't want to do" angle. While it may be true, its going to sound like an ultimatum...that never works out well in these situations, at least in my experience. I'd stress that you want to talk about it face to face, but that she seems to shut down verbal communication about it whenever you talk. Maybe y'all could talk in some neutral environment, without attempting to "resolve" anything, but just to get all the cards out on the table. Pull the situation apart and examine it, and then proceed from there. I'd stress that you're trying to open communication with this letter, not force any decisions. In a letter, its all right there in front of you and there's no way for her to get the discussion sidetracked on tangents, etc. Best of luck.
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