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blahblah454 · 11-03-2006, 10:45 AM

Okay thats a pretty bad title but its all I could think of at the moment. Here is my bind: Me and the girl have been having great sex for a about 6 months or so, like 3 times a day sex. We had sex pretty much all the time. She is still interested in sex like that but lately I find I am not, we now have sex about once or twice a month and I sleep there almost every night.

The thing is she doesn't do anything to lead up to sex, she likes sex and only sex. She won't let me get her off by fingering her, she won't let me go down on her, she won't give me a hand job or a blow job... not even for 5 seconds to get things started. I have talked to her about it and she tells me that me going down on her is gross because she pees down there, girls bleed down there, discharge, blah blah blah stuff like that. I tell her WHO CARES! People do wash and I think she tastes great, she still doesn't let me. She won't let me finger her because she says she would rather me get her off for real (as in my penis), I tell her yea thats great and all but sometimes I just really don't want to have sex, plus I love the feeling of fingering a woman and it turns me on like crazy.

Now on my side, she won't give me a handjob or a blowjob because she says penis' are gross. They pee out of them, they have precome (which I have alot of, makes sex great though) and they explode all over when they are done. I mean she won't hardly even touch it, if I even suggest it she gets mad at me. If she is on top she won't even reach back and put me in her, I have to do it every time.

Because of this I have pretty much completely lost interest in sex, I love being with her. I love going out with her, cudling with her, doing whatever. But when the time comes for bed I just go to sleep cause thats all I want. Lately she has been getting mad at me because we never have sex anymore and I tell her that it is because she never pays attention to me in that way and I feel like she doesnt even want it or care. And thats true, I have lost pretty much all sex drive because she won't even touch me there.

Has this ever happened to anyone else? Before it was kind of irritating but we would still have sex alot, but now it is just irritating me and makes me not even want to have sex.

More about me and the girl. We have been best friends for about 3 years now, officially dating for 6 months and were unofficially dating for another 6 months before that. She tells me she is in love with me and has been since pretty close to the day she met me. She was even going to move 3 provinces away to go back with her family but then she met me and didn't move. I am crazy about her and could honestly see myself marrying her, but that one thing.

***Wrote this tonight, tell me if I should give it to her or change it at all***

"I am nuts about you (NAME), so completely crazy about you. I want to be with you, but one thing has got me thinking lately. You say sex is a big thing in a relationship, and it is a big thing. Lately I have been wondering a lot about it and where we are in it. Right now I see you not ever wanting to touch me or let me even touch you. It does seem like you are interested in only the one part of sex. Sex is so much more than just actual penetration; it involves everything leading up to it, hands and mouths, kissing and everything. It is also more than just a physical act, its a complete emotional bonding as well. Without any of that it loses its meaning and pleasure.

I am guessing that lately you have probably noticed how we have not been having sex. When I try anything or ask you about touching me there or anything you just clam up and tell me that it’s gross, you tell me that penis’ are not sexy and are gross. You won’t let me hardly touch you or go down on you; you tell me that your bits are gross. Well they are not, they are beautiful. I can understand that you may not like them the most but that is no reason to say things like that to me. I am crazy about you and want to do anything for you to please you. I don’t think I am wrong in wanting any of this, it is natural and normal. I feel that this sexual wall I am feeling between us is affecting us in more than just the physical aspect of our relationship, we need to try in everything and can not ignore this.

You turn me on so much, just looking at you gets me excited. But I think about what you say and how you act about every sexual act other than actual intercourse and I think to myself “Then what’s the point?”. I get hurt by that, people are pretty sensitive about their private parts (They are called private parts for a reason). When you say things like that I just feel like going and sleeping on the couch. You have been asking me for a while whats wrong when we are close together, well this is it. I have talked to you about it but you always just shut me down and never notice how I feel about that. This is a big deal and it will affect us, it already has."

11-03-2006, 10:45 AM	#1 (permalink)
blahblah454 Let's put a smile on that face Location: On the road...	Losing interest in sex with girlfriend Okay thats a pretty bad title but its all I could think of at the moment. Here is my bind: Me and the girl have been having great sex for a about 6 months or so, like 3 times a day sex. We had sex pretty much all the time. She is still interested in sex like that but lately I find I am not, we now have sex about once or twice a month and I sleep there almost every night. The thing is she doesn't do anything to lead up to sex, she likes sex and only sex. She won't let me get her off by fingering her, she won't let me go down on her, she won't give me a hand job or a blow job... not even for 5 seconds to get things started. I have talked to her about it and she tells me that me going down on her is gross because she pees down there, girls bleed down there, discharge, blah blah blah stuff like that. I tell her WHO CARES! People do wash and I think she tastes great, she still doesn't let me. She won't let me finger her because she says she would rather me get her off for real (as in my penis), I tell her yea thats great and all but sometimes I just really don't want to have sex, plus I love the feeling of fingering a woman and it turns me on like crazy. Now on my side, she won't give me a handjob or a blowjob because she says penis' are gross. They pee out of them, they have precome (which I have alot of, makes sex great though) and they explode all over when they are done. I mean she won't hardly even touch it, if I even suggest it she gets mad at me. If she is on top she won't even reach back and put me in her, I have to do it every time. Because of this I have pretty much completely lost interest in sex, I love being with her. I love going out with her, cudling with her, doing whatever. But when the time comes for bed I just go to sleep cause thats all I want. Lately she has been getting mad at me because we never have sex anymore and I tell her that it is because she never pays attention to me in that way and I feel like she doesnt even want it or care. And thats true, I have lost pretty much all sex drive because she won't even touch me there. Has this ever happened to anyone else? Before it was kind of irritating but we would still have sex alot, but now it is just irritating me and makes me not even want to have sex. More about me and the girl. We have been best friends for about 3 years now, officially dating for 6 months and were unofficially dating for another 6 months before that. She tells me she is in love with me and has been since pretty close to the day she met me. She was even going to move 3 provinces away to go back with her family but then she met me and didn't move. I am crazy about her and could honestly see myself marrying her, but that one thing. *Wrote this tonight, tell me if I should give it to her or change it at all* "I am nuts about you (NAME), so completely crazy about you. I want to be with you, but one thing has got me thinking lately. You say sex is a big thing in a relationship, and it is a big thing. Lately I have been wondering a lot about it and where we are in it. Right now I see you not ever wanting to touch me or let me even touch you. It does seem like you are interested in only the one part of sex. Sex is so much more than just actual penetration; it involves everything leading up to it, hands and mouths, kissing and everything. It is also more than just a physical act, its a complete emotional bonding as well. Without any of that it loses its meaning and pleasure. I am guessing that lately you have probably noticed how we have not been having sex. When I try anything or ask you about touching me there or anything you just clam up and tell me that it’s gross, you tell me that penis’ are not sexy and are gross. You won’t let me hardly touch you or go down on you; you tell me that your bits are gross. Well they are not, they are beautiful. I can understand that you may not like them the most but that is no reason to say things like that to me. I am crazy about you and want to do anything for you to please you. I don’t think I am wrong in wanting any of this, it is natural and normal. I feel that this sexual wall I am feeling between us is affecting us in more than just the physical aspect of our relationship, we need to try in everything and can not ignore this. You turn me on so much, just looking at you gets me excited. But I think about what you say and how you act about every sexual act other than actual intercourse and I think to myself “Then what’s the point?”. I get hurt by that, people are pretty sensitive about their private parts (They are called private parts for a reason). When you say things like that I just feel like going and sleeping on the couch. You have been asking me for a while whats wrong when we are close together, well this is it. I have talked to you about it but you always just shut me down and never notice how I feel about that. This is a big deal and it will affect us, it already has." Last edited by blahblah454; 11-05-2006 at 10:26 PM..