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There are two main vibes you get as a guy when dancing with a girl at a club.
Vibe A, Go Away:
This is when you randomly walk up on some girl or ask her straight out if she wants to dance, and rather than be mean by just shutting you down, she says okay. When you're dancing with her, if she is keeping her distance, not really getting close to you, and most of all not really looking at you, she's not feeling it, and rubbing your hard-on against her is going to send her running.
Vibe B, Stick It:
Things will usually start the same, where you have to initiate something out of the blue to make things happen. However, once you're on the dance floor, if you guys are grooving and she is getting more and more comfortable with you, maybe putting her arms up over your shoulders and locking her hands around your next or grabbing you in any sort of way, she's turned on and she's ready to go. Furthermore, if a girl is dancing with you for 2+ songs and you guys have kind of been floating back and forth between the bar and the dance floor, she digs you or she would've cut you like ballast by now anyways. If that's the situation, rubbing your boner up against her is going to send her into overdrive and is a good way to make her start thinking, "I love the way that dick feels, I kinda want to bring this guy home tonight..."
You may or may not go home with her, but the vibe with the girl you're dancing with is going to fall mainly into one of those two categories...you usually won't find a girl who will dance around with you for a long time and be physical with you if she's not interested in you, so based on how you judge that chemistry should decide whether or not to bring out the power tools.
The most important thing to do if you want to have good results is a) get a clue on how to dance, all you need to do is find the bass line and bob to it if you're not very coordinated. Even if the girl is busting out the crazy hip moves she's going to be in the same meter as you so your movements will compliment her, even if they're simple.
And while we're on the subject, don't be a flamboyant dancer. If the girl thinks you dance better than she does she'll think you've done this a lot before and you've probably brought back a lot of girls and you're a gross male slut-bag. Really good dancing on the guy's part may turn some girls on, but most of them want to keep it conservative in this regard and do most of the improv while the guy just sits back and enjoys her leading.
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