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I think this is a particular situation you're referring to but then you're asking us to generalise.
In relation to the specific situation you describe, I'd feel that she'd made a poor choice of boyfriend but that could be due to several things, such as: being too young to know better, having low self-esteem, being a bit of a tool herself. Then I'd also think less of her because she didn't stand up to her boyfriend about running away from an accident scene, her and him, and this says something about her own ethics, or lack thereof.
In general, I think that my opinion of a person is influenced by the company they keep, in proportion to how well I know them and how close I am to them. If I know them well, I'm more likely to think that they are just fragile/have low self-esteem if they keep bad company. If I don't know them well, I may judge them more harshly and think less of them because of their keeping bad company. The opinion I have relating to the company they keep will also be influenced by the type of action that was taken by said company, if it's something minorly offensive/illegal/uneducated,/ignorant/mean/serious or not.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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