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Conveniently, I had this discussion with some friends quite recently. I don't think there are enough options in the poll so I won't vote. Here are a few things we talked about/reasons why:
First, I saw Maleficient say that nobody would choose to be gay because of the inner turmoil it would cause, not to mention the fact that homosexuality isn't accepted in society in the same way as heterosexuality is. I have heard this before, and mostly agree, but I don't think it's that simple because of how complex life can be. I think it's entirely possible that a person could falsely or mistakenly think they are/aren't gay, and not realize it for a long time (maybe forever). In that case I would say it is a choice, albeit based upon feelings that are false/misrepresented/clouded/etc.
Aside from that scenario I don't think it's a choice, although I also think in some situations some males might use sex with another man as a form of domination. That's only sex though, so would probably be classified as 'homosexual sex' rather than 'homosexuality'.
An interesting thing I heard during this conversation was the opinion that it isn't the same in both sexes. He said (he being a gay male) that it was not a choice for males, he and every other gay male he knew believed they were born gay and then realized they were gay at some point in their lives. Whereas some females decide they would rather be with another woman than a man.
I really have no idea what it might be like for others, and others really have no idea what it might be like for me. But it's definately an interesting thing to discuss.
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