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It's very simple really. You don't come on as being someone who want's to get it on with them, so they put you into a category. You don't change how you act really, so they keep you there. Once you let them know what you want, it's kinda too late, they have already pidgeon holed you as a friend, and want to keep you there.
You will find that once someone has formed an opinion of you, it is very hard to change it. And, once someone as made you into a friend, that is also very hard to change.
How people see you is based in large part about how you portray yourself from the first, and let them know what you want. You can not expect these women to suddenly change what they want from you just ebcause youn have decided "It's time to make my move."
You make your move from the first, and don't be a clown. Your approach is quite wrong. You must first yes, have more confidence. if you think making them, your friends first will make it easier for you to get what you want from the first, your dead wrong, it will just make it harder. If rejection is what you most fear, it is what you will most get. Put your fears aside, and you will find yourself getting what you want, it's really that simple.
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