I agree that children should not get awarded for everything that they do. If they are working hard and meeting a goal, a reward can be necessary then. But to just award a kid because he went to bed or 'made potty'...please.
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Originally Posted by Ch'i
Public school systems rewarding?  In my experience with public school systems, most of the staff either don't care, won't let you know they care, or explain how they want a student to pass. I have NEVER seen any kind of reward, let alone excess to the point of spoiling a child. When that happens, its usually the parents' fault. |
Just in response to your first part of your statement Ch'i...I was a teacher for 6 years. I taught in a small rural school, mid-city school, and a ghetto school. In each school I was in I was told to reward them for stupid things they should do. "OMG, you remembered to write your name, sweetie! Good for you, here's a sticker!" *shudder*
One school went to the extent that every child had to get a reward on reward days. You know when you have Honor Roll, perfect attendance, etc. Yea, I had to make up rewards so everyone could get one such as: funniest, hardest worker, most artistic, etc. You don't know how badly I wanted to give one student the award of Biggest Pain in the Ass. But love the kids and build up their esteem...that's what they say. *end thread jack*
Anyway, consistency is very important. All you can do is set the expectations of when she is with you. I feel your frustration of having to 'start over' after a couple day break. I had the same thing when I was teaching. All I can say is that after awhile, it will get easier because she'll learn that you have different expectations than her mother. As for the mother, I wish I had $5 for each time I heard "I'll
*insert better parenting practice here* as soon as _____." I wish that a manual would come out attached to the umbilical cord because that might make dealing with kids and parents a bit easier. Everything else comes with a user manual included...why should kids be any different?