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Originally Posted by MichaelFarker
That is awesome. I admire you for that. It sounds like you are both really lucky.
To answer your question my wife and I have talked about it. She knows that I want more sex.
I'm not sure what you mean by romance.
Some aspects of it seem natural and important to me. Weekly dates, flowers, frequent love notes, the daily "I love you" & "You look beautiful because...." I enjoy it.
I think we stay caught up and can read each other well. I know I enjoy knowing my wife and how she sees things most of the time.
Maybe I need to wash the dishes and wash her car more often. Is that what it takes for some women to be ready to open up generously?
Is it possible a lot of wives put sex on the back burner while their career or children consume their attention? Their focus would be on things that come naturally and are emotionally easier than sex.
Anyway, I appreciate the advice. I didn't even know this was on my mind until I read the excellent posts here.
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Buy her a dishwasher! LMAO! I'm sorry, but I grew up as a young teenage girl with a dishwasher, I marry the boss and wash dishes for over 20 yrs! Move to a new home with a dishwasher and now we have sex at least 3/4 times a week!
NO! HA! Sorry, that is not really the whole truth, however, it sure gave me more TIME to do other stuff! LOL!
Okay....I'll be serious. Actually I never thought much about sex until I hit my late 30's really. I think it was because I no longer had "other things" to really focus my time on. Other than work, that is.
But, you are right, I think some women, if they don't have children, tend to devote their time on other things...such as careers. I think most women just have a lot of clutter in their minds.
It personally sounds like you two are solid Michael. I think you both need to do a few things together that you wouldn't ordinarily do. Like go to an amusement park and ride the merry-go-round, drive bumper cars, race go-carts or play putt putt golf. But, do something fun and relaxing that you wouldn't normally do.
Flowers and going out to dinner are nice, but I think being spontaneous can bring out a "renewal" of sorts. I'll never forget the simplicity of the boss coming home with a grin and said, "Hey! Pack us some sandwiches dear! We are going to the river fishing!" His excitement, made me pause and then laugh. For that is how he asked me out on our first date!!!