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Gilda · 09-29-2006, 02:23 PM

Two career families are not always about income. It can be a matter of both parties wanting a career because that's fulfilling to them in and of itself.

I don't understand why parents wanting their nannies to feed their children certain foods but not others is even an issue. The nanny is the parents' employee, her job is to care for the children in the manner the parents desire so long as that doesn't entail harm to the children or require doing something immoral or unethical. If the nanny can't or won't do that, it's a bad employer/employee match, and they're going to be better off parting ways.

I'm also not seeing the problem with differing education levels. No soft drinks is pretty clear and unambiguous. No hydrogenated oils or high fructose corn syrup likewise isn't all that difficult to understand or determine. The ingredients are listed on the label of every food item.

Maybe it's just my meticulous nature, but a list of acceptible and prohibited items makes perfect sense to me if the nanny is preparing food. How else is she going to know what is and is not appropriate if the parents don't make this clear?

That said, even with a two career family, parents preparing meals is well within reason. I work a full time job and still manage to make supper four to five times a week and breakfast nearly every day.

I'm reminded of the first episode of wife swap. One of the families was a wealthy Manhattan family lifing in a luxury penthouse. Three children, three nannies, mom did not work, spending her days shopping and maintaining the proper image for her husbands career. I don't understand it, but that's how it went. Mom and dad ate out literally every night, most days seeing their children only early in the morning and just before going out to dinner, also, apparently a necessity for hubby's career and the family image. The three kids routinely ate all three meals with their nannies.

It was really sad, how these kids wanted contact with their parents, but dad actively opposed staying home after work to be with them in place of eating out every night.

When we reach time to have a little one, I'm not sure if we'll be going the nanny route. Money isn't the biggest issue; we could live on either of our salaries and investment income. The biggest issue is whether we want to stall our careers to be a SAHM. I'd be the one to do that if it comes to that, but we're really not sure at this stage. At this point we're thinkign we'd likely take advantage of the University's excellent day care system so that our child would be close to both of us.

Gilda

09-29-2006, 02:23 PM	#11 (permalink)
Gilda 32 flavors and then some Location: Out on a wire.	Two career families are not always about income. It can be a matter of both parties wanting a career because that's fulfilling to them in and of itself. I don't understand why parents wanting their nannies to feed their children certain foods but not others is even an issue. The nanny is the parents' employee, her job is to care for the children in the manner the parents desire so long as that doesn't entail harm to the children or require doing something immoral or unethical. If the nanny can't or won't do that, it's a bad employer/employee match, and they're going to be better off parting ways. I'm also not seeing the problem with differing education levels. No soft drinks is pretty clear and unambiguous. No hydrogenated oils or high fructose corn syrup likewise isn't all that difficult to understand or determine. The ingredients are listed on the label of every food item. Maybe it's just my meticulous nature, but a list of acceptible and prohibited items makes perfect sense to me if the nanny is preparing food. How else is she going to know what is and is not appropriate if the parents don't make this clear? That said, even with a two career family, parents preparing meals is well within reason. I work a full time job and still manage to make supper four to five times a week and breakfast nearly every day. I'm reminded of the first episode of wife swap. One of the families was a wealthy Manhattan family lifing in a luxury penthouse. Three children, three nannies, mom did not work, spending her days shopping and maintaining the proper image for her husbands career. I don't understand it, but that's how it went. Mom and dad ate out literally every night, most days seeing their children only early in the morning and just before going out to dinner, also, apparently a necessity for hubby's career and the family image. The three kids routinely ate all three meals with their nannies. It was really sad, how these kids wanted contact with their parents, but dad actively opposed staying home after work to be with them in place of eating out every night. When we reach time to have a little one, I'm not sure if we'll be going the nanny route. Money isn't the biggest issue; we could live on either of our salaries and investment income. The biggest issue is whether we want to stall our careers to be a SAHM. I'd be the one to do that if it comes to that, but we're really not sure at this stage. At this point we're thinkign we'd likely take advantage of the University's excellent day care system so that our child would be close to both of us. Gilda __________________ I'm against ending blackness. I believe that everyone has a right to be black, it's a choice, and I support that. ~Steven Colbert Last edited by Gilda; 09-29-2006 at 02:46 PM..