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Set your boundaries, and then enforce them. Tell him, without drama or emotion, "Do Not Touch Me." Then pay attention when he's close enough to touch you, and if he starts, cut him off at the pass. Do not allow him to make you angry, and do not allow him to touch you. Don't back up, make him back away. Take back control of your space.
You can start it as a mild joke, to give him the opportunity to not look like an ass ("Dude, back up, you're invading my space" with a little chuckle), but when he pushes foreward, as you know he will, drop the smile and say "Seriously, act like an adult and make some space"). It will take some practice, don't worry about striking the perfect balance on the first try. The important thing is to do it, and TAKE BACK YOUR SPACE in a calm and quietly confident manner. If he reaches for you, grab his arm, hard enough to hurt a little, look him dead in the eye and say "Do Not Touch Me."
Please keep us updated on your progress.
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