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Originally Posted by Dungeon_Shade
Good point, Gilda. He keeps walking up to me and saying that I am gay, and he has put his hands on my face, squeezes on my head, wipes his hands on my shirt, and says, "eew, I got acne on me." Pretty damn disrespectful, if I might say. He also keeps telling me to pop my zits. Normally, I would probably blow up, but I dunno if that would be weak or not. I don't want to give him the satisfaction of knowing that he's pissing me off, but there is a point when one should stand up for themselves. I'm just not sure of what actions I should take. Normally, I wouldn't be too mad about the fag comments or the acne comments, because I'm neither gay, nor have an extreme case of acne, but the grabbing part is really irking me. I would love to punch the guy in the face, but I'm afraid of releasing all my pent up anger. He's one of those annoying little-man syndrome types.
Or perhaps it's time to stop asking for advice, and just man up to the little dude, and see what goes from there. If I am to grow, I need to make my own decisions, instead of constantly asking for advice.
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There's nothing wrong with asking advice. It's still your decision to make.
His putting hands on you is
not acceptable, and you should not put up with it. Ignore the comments as best you can, but do not let him put his hands on you any more. Remove them firmly and tell him that that is not acceptable. Don't make threats or escalate things, just set up a firm and clear boundry. What he's doing is assault, and you don't have to put up with it. Take a firm stand now. Be prepared just in case he wants to escalate, and be prepared for his probably making comments about your being oversensitive if it doesn't get more physical, but do not let him put his hands on you when you don't want them there.
Don't try to start a fight, avoid a physical confrontation if you can, but don't let him get away with this. He does not get to put his hands on you without your permission.
And, to go along with Ustwo, this does seem very strange for college. I went to college for close to a decade and teach at one now, and this sounds more like jr. high antics than college to me.
Gilda