Forget all the bullshit about being a dominant male and all that crap.
And forget all the bullshit about being a nice guy.
I appreciate your impulse to make the world better by not being an asshole. And I appreciate everyone else's impulse to help you not be "that guy" - the one who's stepped on by everyone because he is a "nice" person. But there's something nobody in here seemed to mention (well, Ustwo mentioned it but it got lost in all the "alpha or omega" crap):
TRY BEING YOURSELF.
There's nothing wrong with being nice. And there's nothing wrong with being assertive. Where people get themselves into trouble is doing those things in order to get something, at the cost of their true personality, or to cover up some insecurity. And more often than not, it just eats away at your soul.
I'm very glad you took some positive steps to get yourself out of this cycle. Try to keep expanding your comfort boundaries, and keep taking care of yourself. And discard any advice that doesn't sound like "to thine own self be true."
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"If ten million people believe a foolish thing, it is still a foolish thing."
- Anatole France
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