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Originally Posted by Mrs Master
Ive lost sight of the woman I once was and find child rearing a very painful exercise with the challenging moments far out weighing the proud ones. Not what I orginally thought it was going to be like. Just wanted to give you a little reality check before you decide. Make sure too that if you and your partner were ever to break up, you are not just mum but mum and dad.
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Yep, that's pretty much why I waited until I was 24 to start having sex, and ever since then have used both hormonal BC and condoms every single time (I'm 27 now). Even as an only child who didn't have much exposure to young children (never babysat, never hung around my friend's siblings), I have very little curiosity about becoming a parent. Children just plain annoy me, and they always have. Little self-centered bastards.
I don't want anything to do with children right now, and it would take a miracle to conceive.
That said, the fact that we are getting married in 3 weeks has made us consider at least giving up the condoms for a few weeks each month... since then, if we did get pregnant, at least we'd be married and able to support the child. But even so, we don't particularly want to *try* having kids until we're both closer to (or, ideally, beyond) 30 years old and more settled with a house, jobs, etc. Right now we want to give ourselves time to grow out of *our* little self-centered bastard stage
before even attempting to provide for another all-demanding being.
And yes, on a regular basis I do look at kids and think, "How cute!! I want one!"
...and then in the next instant, I bash myself on the head with a figurative frying pan.
I'll keep doing this for as long as my frying-pan reflexes are strong enough to overcome my biological clock. When the time comes that my bio clock is stronger than my resistance to it... then I'll know it *might* be time to *think* about having a child.