Daniel_

Whoa there, my Canadian friend.

Hold your horses, eh!

I made it clear in my post that I have trust issues, but hope the poster can make things work for him. I was not judgemental about his choice of lifestyle - that is never my style.

I was saying that the question in the OP was one that I would not want to find myself in the position of having to resolve for my own life, as it's hard to think that I could trust anyone enough to live the way that is suggested here.

One piece of advice I'd give to the poster is that he ought to think about agreeing that he be the second person to find out about his wife's intentions, not the third.

I'd say that if either of them want to have a fling, they should run it past the other in the marriage BEFORE they tell the lucky flingee.

I was trying in my post to say that TRUST IS EVERYTHING and to achieve this requires great levels of discussion and openness.

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