I didn't have time to read the entire thread, but from the OP and first few replies by other posters, I get the feeling that you are being overly nice.
I think one of the posters replies was pretty good; you can be nice but you gotta have backbone. If people even give you one ounce of shit, you just: talk back, or walk away, or both.
I think once you develop more self confidence (something that I and most people have to go through I believe), you will learn to project a 'be nice but I don't take no shit' aura and people can feel that, just by the way you look at them, and the way you talk to them (if you even talk).
And usually, if someone doesn't look like they are worthy of being nice to (as in the girl who lashed out at you for holding the door open), you don't have to be nice to them. I think being nice is good, but you can't be nice to everyone..
I think one of the keys to success is knowing how to deal with all sorts of people. Different people require different ways of communication, and you have to learn to see each person reacts and how to interact with them. That doesn't mean you're not being true to yourself; your character is still the same, but you can adapt your personality as you see fit (that last sentence is from Covey).
Oh yeah, if you are feeling truly suicidal, definitely go talk to a few counselors. They can really help you out alot.
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Originally Posted by shesus
Oh and by the way, there are still people out there who like random waves and opened doors. It always makes me feel good when a guy lets me out of the elevator first, lets me get on the bus ahead of him, and opens a door for me. Hmmm...of course that means I'm walking ahead of them, maybe they just want to watch me walk away.   |
If you are a girl which sounds like it they probably wanna look at your ass.