Hi GP,
Well, whatever you make out of your marriage is up to the two of you. I don't really see the use in trying to come up with a term that defines what you have.. It just is your marriage.
I have to say though, I feel that through this thread you're trying to justify your current choices. I'm wondering why you feel the need to do that (just curious).
On another point, I can't help but wonder if that is what you want, or what you end up having to do because of her needs. The fact that she kept 'dating' someone you didn't like, and then slept with him too, is a bit odd. However, even if you're doing this because it's what she wants, that's not wrong either. It's just your decision.
I would be curious though if she would be really non-jealous if you actually did sleep with somebody else. Something for you to find out at some point, possible.
Good luck with your marriage, in any case
