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Originally Posted by Daniel_
Hard story.
I had a wife that cheated on me when we were first dating. We put it behind ourselves and moved on.
12 years later she did it again and we got a divorce.
I have trust issues now.
Hope things work out for you.
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Well, it was hard before, but we had hours long conversations, days in a row for several months about it. That is how we came to our present arrangement.
In fact, I have zero trust issues now. I know that if she ever sleeps with someome, I will be the third person to know about it, and I will know about it immediately after it happens. And since she is free to have as few or as many flings as she likes as long as she stays with me, she has no reason to leave me for someone who is going to offer her a more restrictive relationship.
As I said, I am now happier than I have ever been in my life and so is she. She isn't on the prowl for cock, but if a guy starts pursuing her and he really turns her on, she is free to have a fling if she likes, just so long as the three golden rules are adhered to.
I can't even imagine going back to the way our marriage was before. We had a good marriage before, don't get me wrong, but now we have a great marriage.
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Originally Posted by SAM821
sounds tough... basically, you did get mad when she was openly going out with this guy so you need to be sure you are ok with all of this. I think most importantly, are you getting some action on the outside too? What i mean is are you having flings too? or is it just your wife? Personally I dont know I could handle all of this, but if you are ok with this then great for you.
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Thanks for your thoughts. I almost got some from a gal at work once, but I chickened out. I told my wife about it too. She was cool with it. Yes, the deal goes both ways.
And you are correct, I did get very upset about her seeing that half-man that she slept with, but that was a two part thing: First, and foremost, I never liked the guy. I thought he was a worm. And secondly, I was jealous. But that was then. She has since made out with a (she says) stunningly handsome, much younger man, and I actually smiled about it when she told me. I was happy for her. It was a little bit of a thrill.
I am a much different person now. Her cheating, and our subsequent conversations, changed our marriage, as I said, for the better.