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Alpha males are the best at making babies.
But the other males are the best at raising them.
High testosterone has its limitations.
Be careful of referring to pop psychology when it comes to male and female comparisons. Men are not from Mars, women are not from Venus.
Alpha males don't go to counselling because they're afraid to reveal their weaknesses because they don't want to give up their perceived superiority. This doesn't mean they don't have emotional problems. Most do because they don't understand emotions and are therefore subverted by them. This might explain instances of both male-female and male-male violence.
Women are attracted to alpha males for their physical attributes, but realize these males' shortcomings when it comes to child rearing.
Dungeon_Shade, hit the gym if you truly feel compelled to, but don't look at it as the solution to this problem because you will set yourself up for failure. Your college population is not representative of the rest of the world. Once you get out into the real world, it becomes easier to associate with those that share your interests and views on life. The gym is one thing, but consider other things that will round you out as an individual. Try reading good books or developing a meaningful talent (that is, if you don't already). These make you more interesting and self-confident and act as deterrents to people who want to treat you poorly.
And when it comes to being "nice" to women (or men, for that matter), it's important to be authentic. The people that will matter most to you in life will be attracted to that.
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Knowing that death is certain and that the time of death is uncertain, what's the most important thing?
—Bhikkhuni Pema Chödrön
Humankind cannot bear very much reality.
—From "Burnt Norton," Four Quartets (1936), T. S. Eliot
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