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Originally Posted by Manic_Skafe
I don't mean to come off as rude or unsympathetic - it's obvious how unfortunate a situation this woman is in - but I can't understand how anyone can feel sympathy for this woman to the extent that they take the blame (which is rightfully hers) and place it on her husband.
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Staying may not be in her best interests, but it's difficult to see that when you're in the situation, especially with a skilled manipulator. I tend to place the blame for abuse on the abuser, not the abused.
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Perhaps I'm heartless or maybe I've just read too many Ayn Rand books but I firmly believe that if she feels as if she deserves nothing better than a husband who makes her feel inadequate because of her physical appearance then she doesn't.
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Nobody deserves any form of abuse.
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I'm not dancing around the role that her husband plays in her lack of self-esteem but there's no denying the fact that the only person who can instill a positive sense of self in that woman is herself.
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That's not a fact, and it can be denied. A positive self image can come in part from outside intervention aiding a person in finding worthy things in herself. I know that family support and professional therapy have had a large impact on my developing a more healthy self-image over the last few years, something I'd have been incapable of doing without that support.
Gilda