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Old 09-21-2006, 08:30 PM   #12 (permalink)
Gilda
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Location: Out on a wire.
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Originally Posted by Manic_Skafe
I don't mean to come off as rude or unsympathetic - it's obvious how unfortunate a situation this woman is in - but I can't understand how anyone can feel sympathy for this woman to the extent that they take the blame (which is rightfully hers) and place it on her husband.
Staying may not be in her best interests, but it's difficult to see that when you're in the situation, especially with a skilled manipulator. I tend to place the blame for abuse on the abuser, not the abused.

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Perhaps I'm heartless or maybe I've just read too many Ayn Rand books but I firmly believe that if she feels as if she deserves nothing better than a husband who makes her feel inadequate because of her physical appearance then she doesn't.
Nobody deserves any form of abuse.

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I'm not dancing around the role that her husband plays in her lack of self-esteem but there's no denying the fact that the only person who can instill a positive sense of self in that woman is herself.
That's not a fact, and it can be denied. A positive self image can come in part from outside intervention aiding a person in finding worthy things in herself. I know that family support and professional therapy have had a large impact on my developing a more healthy self-image over the last few years, something I'd have been incapable of doing without that support.

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