high_jinx

i don't think much about my "standing" with people, but yes, i remain mum because of my concern that it would jeopardize my friendship.

as an example, i have a friend who is constantly smoking in his car, including when we're going anywhere together and i'm in there with him. I can tell its part of his daily m.o. to always have a cigarette going when he's driving anywhere. I can also tell that if i objected to him doing it, that he'd be uncomfortable and obsess about it the whole time we were on the road together. It's to the point that I make a strong bid to be the one driving when we go somewhere, but he insists on driving so he can smoke.

i know he'd abstain if i asked for my sake because he's a considerate guy, but then i would be a seed for some serious psychological distress on his part because of his addiction and routine. and even though i don't think it's unreasonable to request him waiting till we're not driving, i can see on some level him thinking that im infringing on his rights in his car, or on an instinctual animal level that im causing him pain in the course of his day.

i personally make a decision to hold back my objections because i don't want the psychological static it would cause on his end... i decide that i'm more capable of letting it go and living with it.

and roachboy, i again apologize for my op being too slippery to have a dialogue upon it. i respectfully withdraw my "good person" analogy. And i would love a thread along these same lines about people driving and talking on their cell phones at the same time... i don't understand that either.

I do notice however, you've peppered 4 responses among this thread about it being so much drivel.... if thats the case, why do you torture yourself by continually coming back?

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