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Originally Posted by Infinite_Loser
You could always-- I dunno'-- Find out why your partner has had a sudden decrease in his/her sex drive instead of running out and finding someone else. Besides, I'm a strong believer in karma; What comes around goes around.
Anywho, if you asked me this question a few months ago I would have said that you can be driven to cheat, but I'm not that naive anymore. Unless someone holds a gun to your head and forces you to cheat, then it's a conscious decision to do so. If you're relationship is going that badly, then you should be responsible enough to end it before going out and sleeping with someone else.
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I love my partner and do believe he loves me.Our sex life however is the total pits imho and steadily getting worse as time goes on.We've talked over the issue many times, he denies any issues with me that might be impeding his desire levels, he had a physical and everything checked out fine. All talking things over seems to do is to make things even more strained in the sexual arena.He has quite the eye for and appreactes viewing younger women and porn, he obviously likes sex and all things sexual, just as long as they don't involve me.
The problem here is that the other aspects of the relationship are good and would probably be excellent if there weren't sexual issues.At this point I'm considering proposing that we simply eliminate sex from our relationship entirely, both parties free to find their own outletsbe it masterbation, cyber sex or actual discrete extra marital partner sex.Masterbation is a lot better than sex that feels like obligatory,rote mercy sex imho.
I have no intention of cheating and will honor my promise and remain sexless save for masterbation but I now really understand why people cheat.