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Timberwolf_80 · 08-31-2006, 09:34 AM

I was dating this girl for 6 years, we're in our early 20's, and obviously it was a serious relationship. We had been talking about marriage and all that for a while. At the 6 year mark I wasn't emotionally ready to move in with her and she didn't take it well...also I was being a jerk and making her feel bad about herself...so she was becoming distant...I was pushing her away, my fault.

So we continue seeing each other but something is wrong...she asks for a break. A break from everything she says, not specifically from me...she was going through a lot of other things too. During this time I realize that I've been pushing away this great girl that I want to spend the rest of my life with. So I get my act together and make everything alright and 6 months later we're engaged and living together. So I think everything is fine right? Well a few weeks after moving in together I stumble upon some chats she was having with guys online during our break...even some months before our break actually. There are at least two guys that I found where she told them she loved them after a few weeks to a month and ended up sending them hardcore pics of herself and even hardcore videos and live webcam sessions. I don't know if she was leading them on about wanting to meet them and loving them but these guys sounded genuinely head over heels for her. The guys thankfully live thousands of miles away. My girlfriend is by no means like this and this shocked me...it sounded to me like she was reaching out to someone to hear some nice things said about her...things she had wanted to hear from me. She was making rough plans to meet them too.

So we are really happy together right now and it looks like we will live happily ever after. And I'm ready to forget about it...I'm just kind of annoyed she just so easily (and actually dangerously) showed her body like that to some men. I really won't confront her with this...I've done my share of emotional abuse to her in this relationship so I will just call it even and move on...not to create any more turmoil. She still talks to one of them though and has never mentioned my existence to them, although she doesn't talk to him like she did before it still bothers me she talks to him like she's single. What would you do?

08-31-2006, 09:34 AM	#1 (permalink)
Timberwolf_80 Upright	How would you react? I was dating this girl for 6 years, we're in our early 20's, and obviously it was a serious relationship. We had been talking about marriage and all that for a while. At the 6 year mark I wasn't emotionally ready to move in with her and she didn't take it well...also I was being a jerk and making her feel bad about herself...so she was becoming distant...I was pushing her away, my fault. So we continue seeing each other but something is wrong...she asks for a break. A break from everything she says, not specifically from me...she was going through a lot of other things too. During this time I realize that I've been pushing away this great girl that I want to spend the rest of my life with. So I get my act together and make everything alright and 6 months later we're engaged and living together. So I think everything is fine right? Well a few weeks after moving in together I stumble upon some chats she was having with guys online during our break...even some months before our break actually. There are at least two guys that I found where she told them she loved them after a few weeks to a month and ended up sending them hardcore pics of herself and even hardcore videos and live webcam sessions. I don't know if she was leading them on about wanting to meet them and loving them but these guys sounded genuinely head over heels for her. The guys thankfully live thousands of miles away. My girlfriend is by no means like this and this shocked me...it sounded to me like she was reaching out to someone to hear some nice things said about her...things she had wanted to hear from me. She was making rough plans to meet them too. So we are really happy together right now and it looks like we will live happily ever after. And I'm ready to forget about it...I'm just kind of annoyed she just so easily (and actually dangerously) showed her body like that to some men. I really won't confront her with this...I've done my share of emotional abuse to her in this relationship so I will just call it even and move on...not to create any more turmoil. She still talks to one of them though and has never mentioned my existence to them, although she doesn't talk to him like she did before it still bothers me she talks to him like she's single. What would you do?