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Originally Posted by Sweetpea
Tried the poly lifestyle briefly, but discovered I can't seperate emotion from sex very well, thus the end of giving it a try and recommitting back to my marriage.
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Wow... Hon, there's a lot in that sentence that is coming from a muddled understanding of polyamory.
This is a threadjack, but here goes anyway:
Polyamory is distinct from swinging in that it explicitly
isn't about separating sex and love. That distinction is what makes poly distasteful to swingers and swinging distasteful to polys.
Also, there's no need to "recommit" to one particular relationship inside a poly context. If your relationships are actually polyamorous, you're fully committed to all of them. Creating another relationship with another person doesn't detract from your committment to the first person. I can see that a halfway-swinging relationship that you're treating as polyamorous could cause you some trouble, though.
Now, polyamory--much like swinging!--is absolutely not for everyone. I'm not telling you to go back and try again. I applaud you for even exploring it, because that's more than most people do. Most people have thoughts about it, and then tell themselves that they can't.