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Originally Posted by james t kirk
Now she starts to analyze why my friend is not the right guy for her. He's too this, he's too that, whatever. (My friend is about as great a guy as you'd ever find in a million years of searching.)
Anyway, she's getting ready to dump my friend, when Doc Friendly stops calling. (I have no idea if he banged her. Probably.)
So, my friend is back on the front burner, and they get married and live in the suburbs happily ever after (if you call living with that happy.)
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Yeah, James has it right. Not all women are more selfish than men (it's usually pretty balanced, as far as I know), but I'll be damned if I haven't seen the exact same thing going on over and over again in my girlfriends' lives recently. Woman after woman has been divorcing, breaking engagements, etc because said male is not "____" enough and they feel like they are "settling" or are being forced to work too hard.
Yeah, right.
All of my girlfriends name things that are wrong with their men... but it's basically the same issue. They're too damn picky and want a "soulmate" or someone who is Prince Charming or some other shit like that. They may name some of the same things that I've been frustrated with ktspktsp about in the past, but somehow those things haven't caused us to break up (and I credit much of that to him!).
I'm not about to jump on the next guy who presents himself to me just because ktspktsp and I have to actually WORK on our relationship and be 100% committed to each other, even on the days when we don't like each other.
In terms of "settling," DON'T settle for a woman who thinks she's "settling" to be with you. Seriously. Save yourself that massive injustice and get the hell out.