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Smooth23 · 08-26-2006, 10:49 PM

So an opportunity has presented itself, one that I passed up about 5 months ago(and haven't really regretted). My best friend of about 11 years, and his wife and 1 yr baby bought a house. I got first dibs on renting the basement(they are working on finishing it completely and adding a bathroom). At the time, I passed it up and they got another couple to rent it out. Now, those roomates are moving out on short notice and the opportunity just kind of fell into my lap. Here's my major delemna, I still live with my dad- who is a divorced guy in his early 50's with no girlfriend. He was married to my mom for almost 20 years, and has never really lived alone. I'm worried that I'm his only real companion, and that he sort of relies on me to keep him sane. I'm scared that if I move out, he's going to ultimately just let himself, his living conditions and his life go to hell. At the same time that I'm worried about him, I have my own life to live. I'm 21, financially sound and want to get out on my own. About my friends family. He's 23, she's 22 with a 1 year old girl and 3 cats. They are constantly financially strapped, but both have stable, well paying jobs at the same place I work. She is very trustworthy(and like a sister), and since he's my best friend -I- can trust him with anything. I don't really wanna get involved in their current financial mess, but I know in the end they can work that out on their own.

Here's some pros to moving out: Its 20 minutes closer to work, its right in town instead of out in the boonies. Closer to the girl I'm currently dating, and alot closer to other females when I undoubtedly fuck this relationship up. Not to mention that a 21 year old with roomates is alot more attractive than one living with is pa(correct me if i'm wrong ladies, please)

Cons to moving: Current house is on a private lake thats very quiet, I'd miss that. Afformentioned dad issues. $300 in rent I'm not paying right now(offset some by what I help in bills here anyhow). Having to move. Would end up being defaulted to party and probably drink way more than I like(read: not more than once in a blue moon).

Please advise me people. I really have no idea what to do. And please include the reasons why you would choose to do which.

08-26-2006, 10:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
Smooth23 Tilted	move out of 'home' or not? So an opportunity has presented itself, one that I passed up about 5 months ago(and haven't really regretted). My best friend of about 11 years, and his wife and 1 yr baby bought a house. I got first dibs on renting the basement(they are working on finishing it completely and adding a bathroom). At the time, I passed it up and they got another couple to rent it out. Now, those roomates are moving out on short notice and the opportunity just kind of fell into my lap. Here's my major delemna, I still live with my dad- who is a divorced guy in his early 50's with no girlfriend. He was married to my mom for almost 20 years, and has never really lived alone. I'm worried that I'm his only real companion, and that he sort of relies on me to keep him sane. I'm scared that if I move out, he's going to ultimately just let himself, his living conditions and his life go to hell. At the same time that I'm worried about him, I have my own life to live. I'm 21, financially sound and want to get out on my own. About my friends family. He's 23, she's 22 with a 1 year old girl and 3 cats. They are constantly financially strapped, but both have stable, well paying jobs at the same place I work. She is very trustworthy(and like a sister), and since he's my best friend -I- can trust him with anything. I don't really wanna get involved in their current financial mess, but I know in the end they can work that out on their own. Here's some pros to moving out: Its 20 minutes closer to work, its right in town instead of out in the boonies. Closer to the girl I'm currently dating, and alot closer to other females when I undoubtedly fuck this relationship up. Not to mention that a 21 year old with roomates is alot more attractive than one living with is pa(correct me if i'm wrong ladies, please) Cons to moving: Current house is on a private lake thats very quiet, I'd miss that. Afformentioned dad issues. $300 in rent I'm not paying right now(offset some by what I help in bills here anyhow). Having to move. Would end up being defaulted to party and probably drink way more than I like(read: not more than once in a blue moon). Please advise me people. I really have no idea what to do. And please include the reasons why you would choose to do which.