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In addition to much of the commentary given thus far, and not really so distinct from any of it...
it's not so much what she wants to do, on a superficial level - so much as its the way she's going about it. people in relationships are always attracted to people outside the relationship; some people choose to act on it and do so in ways that i think are pretty healthy.
from what you're saying, this isn't something she came to you with, asked you for your opinion, reassured you that you weren't in a position of losing her (or, anymore than you always are in relationships, etc), and that the two of you came to a mutual decision to see other people outside your continuing relationship. sounds to me like she notified you of what she wants to do, she knows its a bad position to put you in, and she's definately putting you on the shelf while she takes care of business. ie. from what i can tell, you're not "still together" while she hooks up with this guy. she's effectively terminating your active relationship, and hooking up / dating this guy.
i certainly wouldn't stop her, and i wouldn't be mad at her...but i wouldn't wait around for her either. i'd wish her well, i'd tell her i hope she has fun with mr. x, and yeah, sure who knows...maybe we'll meet up again down the road. but for now...be done with it.
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