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Originally Posted by Doctor_Max
I just don't know what I should do. I really love her still and she tells me that she loves me too (I really believe her), but for her to give the other guy a fair chance she can't be in a relationship with me. I want to be with her but it hurts so much right now to be in limbo like this.
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Oh dear god, you fell for this?
I know love makes you stupid, I've been there too, but don't be stupid. Let me translate her actions for you.
She likes you, she may even think she loves you, but shes not sure you are good enough/the right one for her. She wants to see if there is something better out there, and doesn't care much how it will affect you. She is out for herself. I once read that love is a condition where the happiness of someone else is more important than your own happiness. By this definition she is not in love, and I'm willing to go with this definition.
My belief is that in the long run her personality is such that even if she chooses you are the one to marry, she will also be the type to seek divorce if thing get difficult and something that seems better comes along.
While I normally see eye to eye with ratbastid on these issues, don't get confused with his polyamory post. Thats a very special situation, and does not apply to young relationships as far as I am concerned so don't think in this case you are doing the loving thing by waiting while she tries to find your replacement.