Originally Posted by Gilda

I am the sub in a D/s sexual relationship, which extends a little bit into our non-sexual emotional relationship. We are, however, equal partners. That may sound a little strange to someone not closely familiar with how D/s or BD relationships work. It's a partnership, in which both partners are fully aware of what is happening and why, and enter into it freely because it's a role that meets their sexual and emotional needs.

A true domme is just as concerned with her sub's needs and pleasures as she is her own. Manipulating someone else for your own personal benefit without concern for the other person's needs isn't being a domme, and it isn't a true D/s relationship. It's simply emotional abuse.