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Old 08-18-2006, 06:42 PM   #16 (permalink)
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Originally Posted by Mantus
...allot of guys want these signs because they want to feel safe(r) about approaching a girl. They are afraid of rejection so they want to atleast have a bit of comfort before they go in.The #1 thought that seems to go through the minds of men when they talk to women is whether or not she'll approve of him. Here is the issue...approaval does NOTHING for attraction. A woman can think you are a jerk, bastard or a complete retard and STILL be attracted to you. Supplicating does not create attraction. Being approved of doesnt mean you are "IN" it usually means you are one of the SAFE boys that will make a great friends/emotional tampon.

This is where the whole - women like badboys - stereotype comes from. Badboys don't care about what others think of them, this allows them to keep their eye on whats really important. Nice guys are thinking: how can I gain her approval. While assholes are thinking: what can I say to attract her? This is huge.
Mantus--

I hear this line of argument all the time. It's relatively prevalent here on the TFP, and many guys at uni believe that this is the way to get girls. And it works a lot of the time.

Here's my main beef with this approach: I seriously doubt that this works for certain types of guys who are looking for certain types of girls. I, for instance, am a shy guy looking for a nice, quiet girl who respects me and loves me for who I am. I'm not looking for a piece of ass.

So here's my question: does this method of acting like the "bad boy" work in ALL circumstances, or does it only work when out at the bar looking for a roll in the hay? I'd really like to know, for I'll need to change my strategies if this is the case.

Thanks.

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