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Originally Posted by tecoyah
Be confident....and assume they are ALL interested....worked for me
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That is a money attitude to have!
Why look for signs of intrest? Well, because the process is linear. You go from A to B. It helps to know where you are allong the road. Making a move to soon, or more commonly too late, can stifle a perfectly good relationship in the making.
I havent slept in a while...and been working and going out every night...so I am starting to feel like an ADD kid. Let me switch directions for a sec...
Tecoyah's repply leads to one very important thing...yes, this means I am about to ramble on for a paragraph or three...
...allot of guys want these signs because they want to feel safe(r) about approaching a girl. They are afraid of rejection so they want to atleast have a bit of comfort before they go in.The #1 thought that seems to go through the minds of men when they talk to women is whether or not she'll approve of him. Here is the issue...approaval does NOTHING for attraction. A woman can think you are a jerk, bastard or a complete retard and STILL be attracted to you. Supplicating does not create attraction. Being approved of doesnt mean you are "IN" it usually means you are one of the SAFE boys that will make a great friends/emotional tampon.
This is where the whole - women like badboys - stereotype comes from. Badboys don't care about what others think of them, this allows them to keep their eye on whats really important. Nice guys are thinking: how can I gain her approval. While assholes are thinking: what can I say to attract her? This is huge.
Alright...I'll get back to my old train of thought later...now I am going to try to sleep.
Cheers.