I found this to be a bit shocking myself.
Using sex as a source of control is unhealthy in my opinion. The reason why you're gentlemen treats you so well i would suspect is not because of lack of sex or the control of it, but rather because you just happen to have a nice guy who's putting up with alot potentially because he may have low self esteem.
Another thing i would like to ask is:
Do you feel you have nothing else to offer the relationship than Sex?
It would appear as though you think so lowly of yourself that you think sex is the only thing that is keeping your guy treating you nicely. Perhaps the sex has nothing to do with it and he just surprisingly likes you for you and it has nothing to do with the control of sex.
on a side note:
Don't you WANT to have sex more often? What do you personally get out of the control of it? other than obvious potential ego boosts.
I also want to note that this IS an accepting community, it's just if someone sees something they disagree with, they are going to say so. We're a very honest forum and people say how they feel one way or another and it's by no means to make you feel less welcome on here
It's just, if you put something up on a forum, people are going to give their comments.
thanks,
sweetpea