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Originally Posted by mexicanonabike
overall, it's like saying: i will never love anyone else than you.
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Not to single out dear mexicanonabike, but this seems a reasonable justification, or at least the start of one.
It's a public and legal life-long (in theory, anyways) committment to "stay with" a person. Key word: Committment. "I will stay with you, even if I don't want to anymore."
Because that's what committments/contracts generally guard against--Continuing to Do Something Even If You're Not Wanting To Anymore. For whatever reason, some good and some bad (good or bad to whom? Who gets to decide that? Ultimately it's strictly an individual's decision).
And is that really such a good idea? People change. Things change. No one (hopefully) is the same person at 40 that they were at 19, 19 and legally capable of making life-long decisions. However, marriage is really not at all a life-long binding contract anymore, it just seems that folks still get all caught up in the romantisicm of "Until death do we part". No, it's not romantic to vow:
"Until I just can't stand you any more", or
"Until my personal unhappiness is consistently 50% greater than my guilt for the period of one calendar year", or
"Until my marginal communication skills outpace my better-than-average sexual prowress", or
"Until we realize we have grown in very different directions and one of us has no more tolerance for the other, which we rather hope doesn't happen but still one must be realistic about these things".