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A little bit of teasing, flirting, verbal sexual back and forth is normal and healthy. I've never been much good at that sort of thing myself, but it's cool with me.
Domination and submission games are also cool so long as it's something that both partners are consciously aware of and willing partners in. My wife and I engage in such as sex play on a regular basis. It's something we both enjoy quite a bit and involves quite often activites that, if I were not a willing and enthusiastic participant, would constitute emotional and physical abuse.
There are a myriad of other differences that I could go into, but the key here is equal participation, consent, and regard for the other person's feelings and needs. He may be accepting the treatment, but that doesn't mean that he's getting his needs met in a substantial way, and you certainly don't seem to be treating him this way because you think it's what he wants and needs from the relationship. Instead, you seem to be relishing the power you're excercising without regard to your partner.
In the long run, it's unlikely to be a healthy relationship for either of you.
Gilda
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