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I'm not sure how that article strengthens your argument, other than to say that way too many women are control freaks who use sex to gain power. The first line actually states that most women who use this technique are NOT satisfied with the results... so how does that back you up?
You're new to TFP, and we don't want to chase you away. But there is a certain ethos around here that calls for respect and healthiness in relationships, or at least, trying to get to a place of mutual happiness in a relationship. If you are happy the way you are, and if your partner is equally satisfied, then that's fine.
I am sure there are plenty of couples on the TFP (who are not posting) who actually do use sex to gain power, but they probably won't post here for whatever reason. But most people that I know (and that most TFP'ers know) with that dynamic are NOT happy in their relationships, which is exactly what your article states. Most of us who have any experience with a controlling relationship would say that your behavior is particularly unhealthy and damaging to the long-term potential of your relationship.
As harsh as we may sound, we're actually concerned about your behavior and what it's doing to your relationship. That's what most of us are concerned about; BOTH people being healthy and non-destructive/controlling within a relationship. If you feel defensive about us being concerned for your relationship, then this is not the community for you.
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And think not you can direct the course of Love;
for Love, if it finds you worthy, directs your course.
--Khalil Gibran
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