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Oh, I certainly agree. I am not saying that people who are religous don't have sex!! Hardly. I'm quite sure that a number of my religious friends have healthy sex lives.

Keep in mind, though, that most of them married their first loves, and have never had sex with anyone else... not in itself a bad thing at all (same for me), but they think it's a sin to read books, watch movies, and talk about sex in an educational manner. Lust is a sin, so most of my friends prefer to avoid activities that might induce a worldly lust. I would also be willing to bet that their "boundaries," as you call them, keep them from trying (or even thinking about) different kinds of sex... which is indeed missing out on some fun, for no good reason that I can see (other than fear).

I find it troublesome that "sex" is a topic of shame with many of them, particularly women. If I, as an unmarried woman, brought up sex in conversation, many of them would turn red and change the topic. Either that or they would look down on me for not being married and having sex, and not treat me the same after that. Or they would try to convert me back.

I don't get it, why sex is such a hard-core topic for evangelicals... why they can't talk about it without blushing, and yet it dictates who they vote for in a presidential election. And I really would like to know the statistics of conservative women who experience orgasms... since I am quite sure that most of my religious friends never masturbated (or felt very guilty for doing so).

I just wish the whole topic of sex was something that could be discussed lightly, while having dinner with friends or something... I mean. EVERYONE HAS SEX, so why not talk about it and learn from each other? Why be afraid and ashamed of something that is so fun and beautiful?

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