Lindy

I think that it is a mistake to assume that healthy sexuality and religion are mutually exclusive. The fact that someone doesn't like to talk about it doesn't mean that they aren't doing it. Nearly all religions would like to restrict sex to inside a marriage relationship, but for a religion to be really "against sex" would be absurd. Where would the next generation of believers come from? I was also taught that one did not need to be free of sin to belong to a church. Good, because I certainly am not. Most religions are against sex between an adult and a child, prostitution, homosexuality, bestiality, etc. They teach that there should be boundaries in a person’s sex life, just as there are boundaries in other aspects of life.
I have had some great lovers that were strongly religious and committed to their church. I see no conflict with a hot time in bed on Saturday night and sitting in the choir Sunday morning. Sex gives me pleasure, church brings me joy. Works for me. Of course, I grew up in a small town in Kansas. A lot of the town’s social life revolved around the churches and church activities, the high school, the American Legion. Those things seem kind of quaint and archaic to my big city friends in Boston, but I never felt deprived.
Lindy