genuinegirly

Do women discuss sex? I really haven't run into too many women who are comfortable discussing it in person. I mention it every now and again (how can this not come up in discussion?) and receive mixed responses. Some women clam up, and the conversation is directed elsewhere. Some become incredibly uncomfortable, but discuss it anyway. Others seem too motivated to discuss it - the floodgates open and I learn far more than I expected about their personal lives. I don't understand why women don't discuss sex in a rational way.

So... I bring this confusion to the TFP. To the LL where we are all pretty comfortable speaking about sensitive topics. I figure I can get all of my questions out there without any of the akwardness.

I was reading the thread about importance of sex in a relationship, and it got me thinking: just how often do women have sex? Married women, single women, women who are dating.. .women who are straight, who are not, who love men, who love their toys, or who love themselves.

What is the purpose you see in having sex? Have you given it much thought? How often do you want it when your Other does not? Visa versa? Do you feel good during sex, and what about afterward? Have you ever been scared of sex?

If you're a virgin, do you find the subject fascinating, or do you find it frustrating? Do you have any reasoning behind being a virgin, or has life just rolled that way?

Oh man. This is a LOT of questions. I suppose too much for one thread. Feel free to answer any of the above. Still, since I love polls, I'm going to cut a few of them out and make things basic.

Thanks, Ladies!

So here's where I'm coming from...

I was raised in a society where sex was not discussed. My mother didn't mention sex until I was 17 and packing for college. All she said was that it was fun. that's it. she asked if i wanted to discuss it more. i said no. that was that. she has tried to bring it up since, i choose not to discuss it with her. Mainly because she most likely views things differently than I do... and considering that she is staunchly religious, she would be terribly depressed to learn that her baby is having sex without a marriage certificate.

I am 23. Went away to college the first time at 17, didn't have a sex life then. Didn't know what sex was about. Didn't understand anything beyond the basic biology lessons. Didn't care. I was studying. Masturbation was frowned upon by the religion that my parents followed, so I didn't know about that either.

Never discussed sex with anyone except a close male friend who had an active sex life. He pretty much answered all of my questions when it came to "How does it work?" Beyond that, I knew nothing. Again, it was never discussed beyond "You shouldn't do this."

ok.

fast forward. Left that college. Came home for 3 years. Started living. Learned how the body works. Learned that this can be fun. Learned that it can be scary too. Learned what it's like to have someone you can depend on.

Now I'm here at Berkeley and living in an all-women cooperative. there are no men. Occasionally someone has their boyfriend over for dinner or what-not. Most of the women here are lesbians. Most, suprizingly, still DO NOT DISCUSS SEX?!?

I don't understand. I want to get out there and talk about these things that we discuss here in the Ladies Lounge. There are issues and concerns and questions... why can't we discuss these things with our women friends?

it just boggles my mind is all.

I love men. I'm a fan of serial monogomy. It doesn't work for me to have my heart torn in two or more directions. I become emotionally attached when I have sex. I love it. I find it fun and exciting. I tend to have sex once a month, maybe twice. I masturbate once to twice a week. I haven't played with toys. I don't really understand their appeal, though I am curious these days. Mainly because my Tt is several hundred miles away and it has been 20 days since I have seen him. Masturbation doesn't always do the trick. I find it difficult to make myself climax. Perhaps I don't entirely understand my own physiology? or perhaps it is al mental block.

sex is a part of life. why can't we talk about it?

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