Sage

Sex is fun- that's why your BF had sex. Because it's fun. He didn't have all these things swarming around in his head, he wasn't thinking of long term committment, he wasn't really concerned with what she did or didn't look like BECAUSE SHE WAS THERE AND NAKED AND WANTED TO HAVE SEX.

It's like... compare your lifetime sexual partners to roller coasters at an amusement park. If you're the kind of person who likes to try out more than one roller coaster, you don't want them all to be the same, because that wouldn't be as much fun. Some sling you around really fast, but don't go upside down. Some have so many twists and whorls that it feels like you're going to barf. And some even splash you with water. Point being, variety is the spice of life.

The last guy I dated before Martel had had an Argentienian girlfriend before me. Now, it didn't matter that he hated her, threw out everything she ever gave him, and talked about how horrid she was- all I knew is that she was from another country and that somehow made her more exotic than me. See how silly that was? I was freaking out over something that my then BF had gotten over a long time before I stepped on the scene.

Your BF is with YOU, and he's with YOU for a reason. He likes you and finds you attractive, and considers your presence enjoyable to be around. Enjoy being with him NOW, instead of thinking about crap that happened when you two didn't even know each other!

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