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I was 22 when I got married the first time, and we were both virgins on our wedding night (we did have some oral sex prior). We dated for four years before getting married. It was mostly her desire to wait, for moral and religious reasons. It was fine with me for the first couple years, but more difficult as time went on.
In my opinion, it was a big mistake. Part of the reasn we got divorced was because of sexual incompatibilities (she didn't want to have much of it <i>after</i> the marriage either. I truly did not think she would be that way.
After we were separated, I found out that she had had some sexual abuse from her older brother that she covered up from everyone (including herself, I think). The damage was done for us by that time though. After four years of a near sexless marriage, I was done.
After that, I wouldn't even consider dating someone who didn't want to have sex first. It's too important of a component of marriage to ignore.
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