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Originally Posted by little_tippler
Yes you deserve love and good things. Of course. But it's not about deserving. Like lurkette is saying, it just is.
Word of advice - to all you girls who tell your boyfriends that you feel you "don't deserve" him and that you're not "good enough" for him....don't tell him. It's not a good idea. It puts ideas into their heads and soon, when things get a little rough, they may start wondering the same thing. Bad karma....just saying
Never put yourself down that way. Maintain your independence and notion of self-worth and don't grovel. Respect yourself more and if you're not comfortable in the relationship, then move on. If you believe you deserve shit, then that's what you'll get.
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I agree with this. If you think you are undeserving of another, then you don't have self-confidence in yourself. Everyone deserves love and in fact it's inevitable not to have people in your life love you. If you view that you are undeserving, that is an issue you have with yourself, not necessarily love. Plus, you will have the person giving you love wondering what you are doing that makes you 'undeserving' of it. While it's good to communicate, it's sometimes good to think things through by yourself and find the root of why you feel you aren't good enough for another person. Before you can truly accept the love of others, you have to love yourself. And loving yourself can be the hardest thing to accomplish for some people.