I sit in the category of having had kids (second one only a few weeks ago), but was quite ambivalent about us having them at all. My wife was very keen, and I was OK if it happened by also fine if it didn't.
I agree with all who have said RB needs to be on board fully - otherwise this could be a relationship killer.
There are lots of tests offered to parents to check "in utero" whether a child has a high probability of down syndrome and other abnormalities, but having fallen pregnant both my wife and I were not interested in these - we had decided to play the cards that were dealt and wouldn't have considered aborting based on the possibility of birth defects.
I also want to defend Analog - at the very least he was willing to say what he believed. I think there are pros and cons to be looked at - just some of the items in the list are less tangible than others. Still, it comes down to you guys feeling comfortable with your decision.
RE the TV/DVD - I'm with Ustwo on this - occassional doses of Bob The Builder and the Wiggles (my 2yo favourites) is a sanity saver. My wife and I are in charge of the remote, though, otherwise it would be on all day
